How to deal with tossers at work ?

Joined: 04 Dec 2011 Posts: 1901 Location: Sunderland

Hi I work at a hospital which seems to accumulate miserable and nasty people. I have worked at a couple of other hospitals and they all seem to be the same.
There is this one bloke who is a complete tosser and I dont think many like him. I am a nice person who gets on with everyone and have always been this way. However i am not soft in the neanderthol way of life I just choose to be nice. This bloke is a bully and bullies a few people and never thought it would be me lol. The other day I was showing my work mate my new pink tyres I got off fleabay(only because they were half price lol) . I had my bike next to his in a cupboard locked away. I had the door open and he walked in asking what we were doing ?. I explained I was showing my mate my new tyres. He replied if you damage my bike I will chin the pair of you. To this I laughed
Laughing

I later bumped into another work mate who said he had come and told him that he told me if I damag his bike he would sot me out.

I took it as a joke but he is totaly serious lol. I dont know how to react as if I was back on building sites I would rip his face off but I will lose my job if I do it now. plus I am older now and know that isnt the way forward.
It is a waste of time pulling him about it as he thinks he is rock hard and I will be forced to lose my temper which equals no job for me .
the wife says ignore it but I dont feel i can as he has a go at other people all the time.???

daz

Posted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 7:56 am Post subject:

I'd take it as a challenge and sabotage his bike, something sutle at first like use a chain splitter and just ease out a link in his chain so it snaps on his way home, do something different every now and again just to piss him off. I guarantee it'll have you giggling to yourself everytime you see him, plus you get to keep your job Laughing

Joined: 17 Dec 2011 Posts: 843

Report him. Why should you get the sack, when he can?

I worked at a hospital years ago and it was weird. Loads of cliques. Everyone had their place, and if you didn't fit in you were screwed. You'd think they'd be compassionate places!! The staff could be absolutely savage.

Posted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 4:24 pm Post subject:

Posted: Sat Feb 25, 2012 6:59 pm Post subject:

I'm afraid that in my opinion the answer is quite obvious.

You think you are as hard as nails, and you say he is of the same opinion of himself.

Unless you corner him outside of work and engage in fisticuffs there will be no outcome to this deadlock.

I live by the adage, "Where ignorance is mutual, confidence is King".

You will both remain ignorant of each others physical violence capability or face the prospect of losing your job, this is not an option.

Therefore in every engagement you have with this 3rd party, you must make sure that you are the most confident.
Don't stand for him having a go at others, if he does this, challenge him about it in front of others when he does it.

You don't have to be aggressive in the way you do this, that is not confidence, just be yourself, be nice, be pleasant but show that you will not be prepared to be intimadated by others.

"Where ignorance is mutual, confidence is King". Wink

Joined: 04 Dec 2011 Posts: 1901 Location: Sunderland

Hi mate I don't think I am hard as nails at all. Far from it but am not a sissy lol. I have never looked for trouble and can count on one Hand how many arguments I have had with people .I tend to just agree to keep the peace . In the real world people tend not to be wankers as they will be told to fool off. When you work for a company like the nhs some people take liberties as they know your hands are tied. I have to much to loose especially with the recession to do anything stupid .

Joined: 02 Oct 2010 Posts: 792 Location: doncaster uk

had the same problem a few years ago with this particular w*nker i used to work with, I waited until we were alone and told him to either change his attitude toward me or never to speak to me in any capacity ever again or i would bite his f*cking nose off Laughing

he was very civil to me after this conversation. just because u are friendly and pleasant some people will see this as a weakness , unfortunately these people only understand violence or the threat of violence.

for the record , i wouldnt have bitten his nose off.....but he got the message!!

Posted: Sun Feb 26, 2012 12:00 pm Post subject:

If you do threaten him make sure it's away from any witnesses, if he threatens you or another colleague then make sure you have witnesses and ask him to repeat his threat so others are aware of it, then report him.

Failing that, take him down a dark alley and beat 7 shades of shoite out of him Wink

Joined: 25 Jan 2010 Posts: 1330 Location: London

Afraid I have my own way of dealing with life's dickheads but I would like to contribute:

What a wa**er!

Joined: 04 Dec 2011 Posts: 1901 Location: Sunderland

Thankyou for replies lads. I have 4 kids now and a mortgage and a caravan lol. I just dont want to fall in the trap of being bullied till I blow my stack. I was bullied in the 1st year seiners and my life was hell till I finaly lost it. When I did the lad had to be off school for 6 weeks. Needles to say he didnt bully me again lol. I didnt take any more sh*t at school and never have until now. Saying that I have never needed to as I get along with most people and if I dont I avoid them. I am in a job now where I cant avoid people I work with no matter how hard I try lol.
I am the type of person who bottles things up till I explode and I wish I wasnt.
I just dont want an arguement as I know I only have about 10 seconds till I snap and cant change that . He has been bullying my mate for a few years nothing serious but just picking away. I have always wanted to say something but I have to work with the bloke and my mate didnt want me too. I am going to sort it out one way or another as the wife say so lol but dont want to lose my job in the process.
I just dont understan how some people are such wankers. What do they get out of it? I worked with a lad for a while who ran security on some pubs in washington and fatfield and we were good mates and he always said people would take advantage of my nice nature. I know it sounds corney lol but he was right.
I tell my son all the time not to let knobs get to him it looks lke I will have to listen to my own advice.

cheers daz

Posted: Mon Feb 27, 2012 1:08 pm Post subject:

strip his crank and put them back on so when he tries peddling he peddles them both forward lol instead of how thye move normally.

Joined: 31 May 2009 Posts: 767 Location: stoke

l wait for the knob head outside of work just walk up to him drop the nut on him job done what a wa..ker this guy sounds

Posted: Tue Feb 28, 2012 3:52 pm Post subject:

Dunno what to suggest mate. To a lot of people, violence is the only way that they will ever listen to anyone else!

Joined: 19 Jan 2012 Posts: 58 Location: Middlesbrough

Arrange a friendly ride on the mountain bike. Take him up every hill till he blows up big style, then leave him in the middle of nowhere, cold, alone, and crying.

Joined: 19 Jan 2012 Posts: 58 Location: Middlesbrough

Then tell everyone at work how soft he is.

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